Some adults speak with Sharon Osaji on what they will do and how they will deal with a spouse who tells lies
I can’t deal -Bode Black
It is a no-no for me; I can’t cope with a lying spouse. I will completely avoid it because such people can’t change. Of what good is a relationship with someone that lies? You can’t package a lying woman and such an attitude will definitely show while dating. She can’t just start displaying it in marriage. So, before it even leads to marriage, I’m out.
A lying spouse will make his or her partner live in suspicion all the time, and it further complicates the problem. First, I think for them to be able to be together, the other spouse should build a strong coping mechanism to be with them. Secondly, the other spouse should filter every piece of information that comes from the lying spouse.
I will lose trust in her – Victor Osi
For me, I can’t cope with a lying spouse because I will lose trust in everything she says. The union will collapse immediately I notice lies. I’ll try as much as I can to not take anything she says seriously because her words and actions will become trivial to me. I think that will enable me to maintain my sanity of mind.
Hold a conversation – Olusegun Mary
This type of spouse needs continuous prayer because it is plain wickedness. Then, you will need to hold a conversation with him to discover the reason why he is always lying, especially when you as the woman, know the truth. Then, let him realise how wicked his actions are and how much it hurts you; probably he might change.
It will be difficult – Vincent Ojo
It will be difficult to live with such a person because I will have to confirm everything she tells me. One will have to be very careful when issues arise either in the home or outside the home. As difficult as it sounds, she will clearly know I don’t trust her. We will also seek counselling, either with family or people we can trust and for any serious decision, we will document everything, knowing she can deny or lie about it later. I might also start recording our telephone conversations as well.
I won’t blame myself for his misbehaviour – Jane Ogo
Firstly, I will review his lying pattern and I will try not to blame myself for his misbehaviour. After assessing the situation and how it has affected our relationship, then I will seek professional help so that we can work things out as a couple.
I’ll try to regain my partner’s trust – Joseph Ugo
A lying spouse is one step away from a cheating spouse. Lying to me is an indicator of a lack of trust. It’s a really bad sign in any relationship to know your spouse always tells lies, either to cover up money issues, mistakes or to just mislead your partner. Whichever one it is, it’s really a bad indicator and it will be difficult to regain trust and confidence in such a person. Partners have to learn to confide in each other, whether it’s good or bad; they can work things out. So, I will try to regain my partner’s trust so she doesn’t have to tell me lies to get away with stuffs or to hide the shame in the truth. Trust is very important in every relationship.
Pray for them – Lilian Gold
If they acknowledge every time they lie and do not make you, as the other spouse, feel like the one at fault or make you feel like you’re overreacting to things, then you know such a person is making effort. One major way to deal with that is to pray for them and seek counsel or therapy, while believing that God will change them, because we as humans cannot change them. Then the other spouse has to help them make conscious efforts to drop the habit.
Hold them accountable – Nsikan Alade
Well for starters, hold them accountable with enough receipts so they can refrain from the habit. Then seek therapy to know how and why it started. Maybe they are insecure about something.
Catch him red-handed – Channah Ofure
First of all, I will try to study his lying pattern to know when, why and how he lies. When I know these things, it will help me to know my next step. Then, I will catch him red-handed with evidence because they will never accept that they have lied. Then, we will have a one-on-one conversation and try as much as possible to let the past be the past and just move forward. There is always an explanation for such actions and I’d just hope we can work things out.
